It’s interesting how the same thing can look completely different depending on who’s doing it.
If I wear it, it’s “modest.”
If you wear it, it’s “too much.”
If I speak up, I’m “bold.”
If you speak up, you’re “loud.”
If I rest, I’m “protecting my peace.”
If you rest, you’re “lazy.”
We see it everywhere — in conversations, in culture, at work, and even in the smallest corners of daily life.
It’s that self-serving bias that shows how deeply perception is shaped by personal opinion. People create invisible rules that favor themselves — one set for me and another for you. The same action, the same tone, the same outfit can be praised or criticized based on who’s doing it.
It’s not always intentional. Often, it’s a reflection of our comfort zones — what we’re used to, what feels familiar, or who we identify with. But that’s exactly what makes it worth examining.
Because when judgment becomes the default, understanding takes a back seat. And when we start measuring others by our own unspoken standards, empathy quietly fades away.
Maybe the real challenge is to pause before labeling and ask:
“If this were someone I liked or admired, would I see it differently?”
That single question can turn criticism into curiosity — and help us see how much of our opinion is shaped by bias, not truth.
Perhaps the real “too much” isn’t in what people wear, say, or do — it’s in how tightly we hold our assumptions about them.
Anyway… enough of a detour. We’ll pick up the Forgiveness Series next. Let me know if you stumble upon this and it resonates.
Until then… ciao! ✨
